Church Hurt - Religion Or Relationship?

Church - a place of sanctity and solace - a safe10) This is what the Sovereign LORD says: I am
haven - a place where you can find rest for youragainst the shepherds and will hold them accountable
"weary soul" -a shelter from the storms of life. Ifor my flock. I will remove them from tending the
have heard it referred to as a "hospital" -- a placeflock so that the shepherds can no longer feed
where the wounded can find a "balm in Gilead";themselves. I will rescue my flock from their mouths,
where the broken hearted can be mended; whereand it will no longer be food for them.
the lame can "take up their beds and walk"; whereNow, let's talk about how we position ourselves to
blinded eyes can be opened, and deaf ears can beget hurt. Some of us were raised in church and
unstopped. Church - a refugee camp - a place for thebecame quite familiar with the traditionalism of going
outcast - the derelict - a "home for the homeless",to church because it was the "right" thing to do!
"life for the lifeless", "hope for the hopeless", youSome of us attended church because there was a
know those who are rejected, neglected, andneed or point of lack in our lives! And some of us
ejected by the world and its pandemonium. Church -attended church because we were broken, busted,
a holistic place-a place of restoration and wholeness--and disgusted and were seeking a balm or some
where those who are hemorrhaging; who have hadtype of solace. The common denominator that linked
an "issue of blood" for many years-unbearable painall these scenarios is the Pastor. At our original
and suffering--going from doctor-to-doctor andentrance in the church, we may have needed
psychiatry-to-psychiatry; who have exhausted allinstructions, guidance, or a roadmap to get back on
resources-penniless--broke--in despair--searching forour feet or to steer us in the right way, because we
just one touch-- seeking to be made whole again! Butdid not know "The Way" (Jesus is The Way, The
what happens when the very place that you turn toTruth, and The Life [John 14:6]). However, once we
when you are hurting...hurts you? What happensget on our feet and become acquainted with "The
when those who have been commissioned andWay", we no longer need our "crutch". What I am
ordained to "put Humpty-Dumpty back togethertrying to say that some of us become co-dependent
again" are the ones who caused Humpty to "have aon man ( the Pastor and the Church body), instead
great fall"? I am sure if I conducted a survey andof solely depending on and putting our trust in "The
sent it out to 1000 church goers, I would find that atWay". First, let me say that Pastors should be
least half of them have experienced "Church Hurt".reverenced, given honor, and esteemed-highly. But
Over twenty years ago, I wrote a play entitled, "Thethere is a thin line between "reverenced" and
Gift", based on the biblical account of the "good"idolized". There is a distinction between "honored"
Samaritan, which depicts a well-renown Bishop, whoand "put on a pedestal". There is a contrast between
is invited as a guest speaker to a small town church's"esteemed-highly " and "worshipped". Besides, our
"annual Christmas revival". The members of theGod is a jealous God; He will not have any other god
church had heard of him and how he had performedbefore him (See Exodus 34:14). Is it possible that He
many miracles; yet they had never seen or met himimposes measures to break "the apron strings" of
face-to-face. On the bishop's arrival into this smalldependency that you have placed before him? Is it
town, while walking down the street, he is muggedpossible that He allows situations to occur that "open
by two local thugs. A short while later, a group ofour eyes" ? Just maybe that measure could very well
church leaders passed by, whom he asked forbe "Church Hurt". Once we are free from the
assistance, but they refused. As I stated earlier, theaddiction of man-we can now fully and
very ones who were commissioned and ordained towholeheartedly receive the anointing of God; who will
help him were the ones who "snubbed up" theirteach us all things.
noses at him. However he encountered a runaway1 John 2:27: But the anointing which ye have received
teenager-who fed him; a bag lady-who sung him aof him abideth in you, and ye need not that any man
song of comfort; and a homeless man-who offeredteach you: but as the same anointing teacheth you
him a sleeping bag to rest for the night. Sometimesof all things, and is truth, and is no lie, and even as it
love and compassion are shown through those inhath taught you, ye shall abide in him.
which we least expect and "gifts" comes in smallLet me clarify, I am not advocating emancipation, or
packages. Well, the Bible tells us not to despiseseparation from the church, nor am I telling anyone
"small" beginnings (that is just an extra tidbit fornot to listen to their Pastor, so let us get that
someone who needed it).straight right now. I am a minister and I certainly
Nevertheless, "Church Hurt"-hurts like no other hurt; itwould not do anything to disrespect my ministerial
is more intense. The thing about "Church Hurt", youcalling or for that matter, those who have been
never know when it is coming or who it is comingcalled to Pastor. But what I am saying to you is what
from-it could be a choir member, an auxiliary leader,a Pastor told me several years ago that changed my
an usher, the church mother, the pastor's wife, orlife, "Get to know God for yourself." Do not let your
even the pastor. Now, you talk about hurt-whenrelationship with God solely be determined by a 15-30
your pastor hurt you-that is some severe hurt. It is aminute sermon. Study the Word of God for yourself.
gut-wrenching blow that knocks all of the wind out2 Timothy 2:15 confirms, "Study to show thyself
of your sail. Nevertheless, it is a reality; it happens!approved, a workman that needed not be ashamed,
Stephanie Mills sung a song a few years ago entitled,rightly dividing the word of truth." Read your Bible! If
"I Never Knew Love Like This Before!" I could do ayou have trouble understanding the Word, by all
remake entitled, "I Never Knew Pain Like Thismeans seek for understanding from a clergy or
Before!" But she also states in the song, "Open Mysomeone who is an astute student of the Word.
Eyes" "Church Hurt" does just that "Open Your Eyes!"In conclusion, I have certainly had my share of
You will realize that the only thing in this world that"Church Hurt" but it has only strengthened me; for
you can depend on is the unadulterated (pure) Wordmy trials have only made me stronger, wiser, and
of God! People will fail you, but the Word of Godbetter. "Church Hurt" has made me re-focus my
NEVER fails. Before I move on to my next point, Ipriorities and place my trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3).
must leave a warning to the shepherds who imposeIt has taught me that I do not have to be a "clone"
"Church Hurt" found in Ezekiel 34:4 and 34:10:of someone else; that I can uniquely and individually
4) The diseased have ye not strengthened, neitherbe "me". It has made me live the advice of my
have ye healed that which was sick, neither have yePastor, the late Georgia Smith, "Get to know God for
bound up that which was broken, neither have yeyourself!" Each day I am learning more..! Experience a
brought again that which was driven away, neither"relationship" not a "religion-ship". You will be glad you
have ye sought that which was lost; but with forcedid!
and with cruelty have ye ruled them.