Expecting Your Life Situation to Change, But Not Willing to Change Yourself (Life Situations)

We seem to always run into the same difficultiesto; our wanting to survive and continue.
with life sooner or later, don't we? A good exampleBut if the ego is an illusion, what is there to continue?
is a new relationship. Things start off famously,What never has been will continue to be "never has
swimmingly, but after some time the same oldbeen" after death - unless we cling to that ego so
problems seem to rear their ugly heads, even with atightly that we become a ghost! And maybe live in a
new person. What's going on here?house that we can't give up either... and haunt it!
Can it have something to do with ourselves? This isOf course we don't have to wait for our demise to
difficult to look at because it hits real close to home.become a ghost. When we cling to our idea of
It's much easier to blame someone or somethingourselves, we can become a walking zombie right
else, but unless we look at ourselves, we will behere on earth! All we have to do is become so
tricked by life forever.obsessed with ourselves that we can't see others,
So how does life trick us? It can only trick us if weand then we will find ourselves walking around in a
allow it to. If we begin to understand life at moreself-centered trance, caught in endless thought night
than a surface level (get all the pleasure I can!), thenand day, hardly able to sleep.
the tricks are seen through and life can become theMind is the forerunner of all things, a wise man once
teacher that it is supposed to be.said, and this is true. A mind with dim vision, only able
We build up an idea of ourselves, an identity who weto see itself, will be the forerunner of all that
are. This is a trick of life. It's a trick because it is ahappens to that mind, and subsequently to its body.
slight of hand. There is no real "us." But because weA mind at this level cannot see the body simply as
are tricked into believing that there is a real us, weorgans and tissue growing from the elements of the
are conned into supporting and nurturing whateverearth, and which will return to the earth someday.
image our mind has concocted about who we are.This mind sees the body as much more than that,
Then, everything we do in life has to fit the image,like a spirit, and when the mind makes this mistake,
because we certainly don't want that image tothen the body becomes like an expensive sports car
change, regardless if we don't like ourselves the waythat one must park way out in the Walmart parking
we are. It is a curious thing; that we don't want tolot so no one will scratch it.
change, and it comes down to both fear, and beingA mind with insight, on the other hand, sees through
proud of what the mind concocted regarding athese images and sees the reality of life, which is
personality.that the body and mind are material. Then, like having
We believe that our image is concrete, so we don'tan old junker, you can park the ego and body
want to shatter that image of our ego. If we shatteranywhere with complete ease of mind! This relieves
it and change, then we see that nothing is concrete.stress. And with stress and worry relieved, the mind
then we can become insecure because one of ourhas space to go even deeper into life, and this is
fondest beliefs has bitten the dust, the belief in anwhat is called approaching real spirituality, i.e., beyond
unchanging personality that will continue into thethe material.
cosmos after death. This is what it all comes down