Three Reasons We are Unhappy

1. ImpermanenceAnd all of this is happening to a "me." That's the real
We try desperately to live a life of light and love, butproblem. We have constructed an ego in our minds
the truth is; nothing seems to last these days, as ifthat has taken over our entire spiritual being. Going to
we are sitting around waiting for that other shoe tochurch helps a little, or spiritual exercises - it takes
drop. Ask any empty nester; the kids are goneour mind off things for a while, but not for long. The
before they can say, "Whoa, where did the happy"me" in us will soon raise its ugly head and begin
years go? Now what?"worrying again, if not about dying; about it's after life.
Careers are becoming slippery slopes as well, withAnd "me" will surely enslave itself to some ritual or
mergers and acquisitions playing around with real livesbelief to insure its immortality.
in the face of global competition. Everything isThis "me" becomes the most important thing in our
changing rapidly, and at times, it becomeslives, leaving little energy left over to genuinely care
overwhelming. We are changing; those around us areabout others. We might feign helping others, if it
changing; the world is changing, and it seems there ishelps insure our own ticket to heaven, but when
little we can rely on these days; we can't even relypushes come to shoves, it's a Herculean feat to
on our bathroom mirror - surely it must be lying to usauthentically love our noisy neighbors! Just underneath
as well.the surface of our holiness lie the creepy seven
Looking to our doctors for solace doesn't help muchdeadly sins (lust, gluttony, greed, laziness, anger,
either, they keep warning us about . . . things, andenvy, and pride) all connected to our "me's." And if
we must remain ever more vigilant every year. Andwe can't admit this, then we are surely caught in the
the drugs they prescribe do more damage than ourseventh! "Me" wants things, craves things, and finds
diseases! Worry, worry, worry. When will it ever end?ways to get them.
Even when we are happy, we wonder how long the3. Discontent
happiness will last, because we know that everythingA combination of a "me" that craves for things, as
around us is in fact changing, and the changes arewell as the reality of a changing world where it's
rarely for the better.difficult to hang on to the things that our "me" does
Thank God, for TV, the occasional love affair,happen to achieve, results in our constant discontent.
celebrity gossip, or a new challenge that takes ourWe put on a good face and insist we are happy, but
minds off all of this, but these, alas, change as well,in those private moments, when we are honest with
as if a gremlin lived deep inside magically making usourselves, we aren't happy. We can't even sleep!
weary of any diversion we discover. And that littleNights are not easy for us, because then we are
persistent niggle just won't go away, that feeling wealone with our "me's."
face all the time in our moments of reflection, usuallySo discontent is there for us; it's undeniable, and it's a
late at night, when we are all alone.real deal. But there is hope! There is a way out. And
2. "Me."the way out is on the other side of "me.