Wedding Dresses - Why They Are White and Other Wedding Lore

Brides have always worn white, right? Not so. Inbeliefs rain on your wedding day is good luck.; Some
ancient times brides wore bright colored weddingwestern cultures believe rain is unlucky.
dresses to signify their joy. White for western bridesIn Holland it is traditional to plant a tree outside the
didn't become fashionable until Queen Victoria wore itnewlyweds home as a symbol of fertility. Finnish
at her wedding to signify her status. White dressesbrides traditionally carried a pillowcase door to door,
never did signify purity until the Christian churches putcollecting gifts. An older married man went with her,
that label on them. So feel free to add a little color tosymbolizing a long marriage.
your wedding outfit.Korean brides wear red and yellow outfits for their
Wedding bands made of hemp or braided grass wereweddings. Danish brides and grooms used to
the earliest rings. They eventually fell out of favor,confound the evil spirits by cross-dressing. Egyptian
replaced by durable metals until about the 15thparents traditionally do all the cooking for a week, so
century when diamonds came upon the scene, tothat the couple can relax.
signify a valuable strong commitment, a traditionIn many cultures including Hindu, Egyptian and Celtic,
which most modern couples choose to keep.the hand of a bride and groom are tied together as a
When grooms would "capture" their brides and orsymbol of their new bond and commitment to the
were afraid of evil spirits they would comer themarriage. This is the origin of the expression "Tying
woman's head to keep her from being recognized.then knot".
Bridesmaids' dresses are all identical. Where did thisIn Roman mythology the god Juno rules over
practice originate? Long ago the brides friends worechildbirth, marriage and the hearth. This is believed to
the same exact outfit as the bride to confuse thebe the reason for the popularity of June weddings.
evil spirits who wanted to destroy her happiness;. ItAfrican-American weddings often hold to the tradition
also helped to prevent the bride from beingof "jumping the broom". Slaves in the United States
kidnapped by a rival suitor.were not allowed to marry, so they would exhibit
The receiving line developed from the ancient belief,their love by jumping over a broom to the beat of
that on their wedding day, the bride and groomdrums. It now is symbol of the couple's intention to
brought good luck to everyone they touched.set up a home together.
Modern couples often pass on this and prefer toJapanese couples become man and wife when they
"make the rounds" greeting their guests during thetake the first of nine sips of sake. In Irish tradition
wedding dinner.once the bride and groom were in the church, the
In ancient Rome a marriage was not legal until theguests would lock the doors to make sure the
couple kissed. The kiss was considered a legal bondgroom couldn't back out. It was also important that a
necessary to seal all contracts. This is thought to bemale not a female be the first to wish joy to the
the origin of the present day custom of banging anewly married bride.
spoon against a glass until the newlyweds kiss.There is an old English rhyme that brides have been
Will you have your dad walk you down the aisle? Doobeying for years. "Something old, something new,
you know where this custom originated? Long ago, asomething borrowed, something blue." The actual
woman was considered her father's property untilrhyme also included this line "and a sixpence in your
she married, and their she was her husband'sshoe". Relatives usually offer the something old, like
property. At the wedding the Dad would literally "givegreat grandmother's antique cameo, or your mom's
her away," transferring ownership to the husband.gown. These items provide continuity from
Now brides often have their fathers or both parentsgeneration to generation.
accompany them, and have the officiant ask "WhoThe "new" symbolizes home for the future and can
supports this couple in marriage?" The parentsinclude your gown or veil , a strand of pearls,
answer "We do."bouquet of silk flowers, or a new coin to tuck in your
There is no need to explain what the honeymoon is.shoe. The choices here are endless.
But do you know where the term originated? InBorrowed happiness is symbolized by the something
ancient Ireland, when a couple married, the parentsborrowed. It should be something that brought
would make sure they had a supply of a drink madehappiness to the owner. Some possibilities are your
from fermented honey called mead, that would lastmother in law's ruby brooch, your dad's silk
for a full cycle of the moon. It was believed theyhandkerchief, or your parents' wedding song.
would be blessed with a son within a year.The blue something symbolizes fidelity, love and good
Back when a bride could be forced by a captor tofortune. Often, there is a blue ribbon on the garter.
marry, the groom would have to carry her againstOther ideas are blue flowers, delphiniums, or irises in
her will into her new home. The Romans thought thatyour bouquet, sapphire earrings and necklace, or
it was bad luck, for a bride to trip over the thresholdeven your lingerie.
so to prevent that, the groom carried her.You may want to consider incorporating some of
During the Middle Ages the length of a bride's trainthese ideas into your wedding plans. There are books
indicated her rank in court. The longer her train theand magazines that you can search for traditions
closer she was to the King and Queen and thefrom your own ethnic or religious traditions. Perhaps
greater her influence with them.you like something you've heard about from another
During the 18th and 19th centuries gloves were theculture that you can adapt for your wedding. If you
traditional wedding favor for guests.will have children at your reception you might want
Here are a few more unusual traditions from aroundto borrow the Puerto Rican idea of pinatas, even the
the world. The Greek bride tucks a sugar cube in heradults might enjoy that one.
glove to "sweeten the union." According to Hindu