| Everyone has their own beliefs and religion and | | | | Maybe it’s time you started asking yourself |
| that’s good, what ever works for you. But what | | | | why? |
| I feel is that a belief is something which you are | | | | Each and every day I choose to be happy, healthy, |
| given, not something you really choose for | | | | loved and have fun, and each day I am all of these |
| yourselves and I feel that even religion is a false | | | | things. It really is that simple, how could anyone |
| hope. We all have some amazing leaders in our | | | | never manage to do this is beyond me. I only wish |
| life’s, but from how they started off initially and | | | | someone would have pointed all this out to me years |
| what they seemed to have changed to along the | | | | ago, it would have saved an awful lot of suffering |
| way, are two completely different things altogether | | | | unnecessarily and given me back my life. When you |
| don’t you think? How can something what we | | | | grieve, the only person who is sad is you. I’m |
| believe in which is meant to be so good for us be | | | | not saying don’t grieve, that’s perfectly |
| causing so much destruction, violence and war in the | | | | normal, it’s normal and healthy to cry and release |
| world? I used to believe in god I suppose, but for a | | | | the sadness but the blame, guilt and all the other |
| long time even though I still know that something | | | | destructive feelings you continue to have, are all so |
| exists, that is not my belief anymore. It’s only at | | | | unnecessary and unhealthy, just don’t be so |
| the lowest and saddest times in your life that you | | | | hard on yourself either. It took me an awful lot of |
| really ever rely and trust in your faith. Sometimes it | | | | searching to find what I have, and now I have, |
| can pull you though those times, sometimes it lets | | | | there’s no going back. I have never been and |
| you down so much; you wonder where the belief | | | | could never be the 9-5 kind of person ever again. I |
| ever got you in the first place. I used to go to | | | | know that when my life on earth is over, I have |
| church every Sunday when I was younger. I never | | | | learnt the most important lessons already. I have |
| really choose to go, but because my mother thought | | | | experienced loss and pain on the deepest of levels, |
| it was the ‘right’ thing to do and she | | | | when I lost the closest person to me in the world, |
| believed in that, we were kind of forced to go. | | | | my brother. It would have been easier to have |
| Never really understood any of it, appart from the | | | | ended my life than to live, but the only thing which |
| fact the Sunday School where you mixed with all the | | | | stopped me was seeing all the pain and pieces it left |
| other kids and had fun was alright, but the singing | | | | behind for others to deal with. I wasn’t that |
| part in the church was so boring and you | | | | selfish to take the easy option. Then I have |
| weren’t meant to fidget either, or talk? Looking | | | | experienced love, love on the highest levels possible, |
| back I can understand why she made us go, it was | | | | love and acceptance for myself. I know when I leave |
| really to get us out of bed early on a Sunday | | | | earth and move on to the spirit realm, which I’m |
| morning and sing. She believes and still believes, which | | | | already a big part of already and we are all one to |
| is fine with me. | | | | start with, I know I won’t be returning to earth. |
| The crunch time for me came, when one morning | | | | I will just be helping and healing like I have on earth. |
| out of the blue, we had a visit from the police. We | | | | Like all my spirit guides, reiki helpers and personal |
| instantly knew, it was my brother. He had been | | | | guides have helped me to help others and myself. |
| involved in a serious car accident and had been taken | | | | The other side so to speak is only a couple of feet |
| to the hospital. To this day, I will never forget what I | | | | above the earth plane to start with, so how can we |
| said to myself in the shower as we rushed to get | | | | not feel the people we have loved and lost in our |
| ready to go to hospital. I said ’If I get through | | | | life’s? How can they not be around us still, |
| this, I’ll get through anything’. Little did I | | | | it’s impossible, you just need to be open and |
| know what was just round the corner? The amount | | | | aware of the vibrations around you. We are all a |
| of times I prayed for him to be ok again and sat | | | | vibration, universal life force energy every living entity |
| there beside his bed holding his hand, but he never | | | | on the planet, so the other side is never far and as |
| regained consciousness. I believed that he was loved | | | | near as you would like it to be and the people also. |
| so much, that no one would ever take him away | | | | It is only when you forgive yourself and allow |
| from us. How could someone possibly do that to | | | | yourself to let go of those feelings, you will be able |
| someone so young fit and healthy and only 25? | | | | to live again. When I say let go, you will never let go |
| Sadly, he had head injuries and didn’t survive. | | | | of the closest people to you in your life that you |
| From that moment onwards, I no longer believed in | | | | have lost, never, I wouldn’t expect anyone to |
| god or anything anymore. | | | | do that. All those wonderful and precious memories |
| I think it’s cruel in a way that people who | | | | and moments are sometimes what keep us going |
| practice their religion force it onto their children; we | | | | and will be there forever until we meet again. Blame |
| should all have a choice not an instruction or order. | | | | and guilt are only feelings which we allow ourselves |
| We do have a choice but only when we are old | | | | to feel and are so destructive and damaging to our |
| enough to make our own decision’s. I don’t | | | | bodies. When we have these destructive feelings, we |
| feel in this day and age belief or religion seems to be | | | | should remember, the choices were never in our |
| a choice which is such a shame unless of course you | | | | hands to make were they, so please for one minute |
| strong minded to whatever you want to do or what | | | | stop and realise, we couldn’t have done one |
| feels right. | | | | single thing to change the outcome, it was never our |
| I admire the Buddhist Philosophy and the Buddhist | | | | fault, so allow yourself to live again and let these |
| way of life it really intrigues me. I lived that way for | | | | feelings go before you to have no life only guilt and |
| so long while living in Asia. Although I never practiced | | | | blame and feel at fault. How can it have ever been |
| it, I have a fascination with it and the pure loving | | | | your fault when it wasn’t your choice or |
| energy you feel each time you walked into a temple. | | | | decision? So allow the guilt and blame to go, be free |
| I still live that way in the UK; To be honest, I | | | | from feeling like this, you have enough to cope with |
| can’t live any other way now. Comparing | | | | going through the grieving process; don’t punish |
| Thailand and Asia to the UK is just impossible. Living in | | | | yourself anymore, allow yourself to live. Where does |
| Thailand is like living in the slow lane and appreciating | | | | it say while you are grieving you are not allowed to |
| everything which is around you and everything you | | | | have fun, be happy, smile or live your life? Nowhere, |
| have. Living in the UK is like living in the fast lane, | | | | but this is what we have programmed ourselves to |
| always thinking about the future and the past, what | | | | think each and every second of every day. If we |
| we used to have or what we feel we must have, | | | | don’t act like this, we feel it’s not normal. |
| never enjoying the moments for what they are, | | | | What’s normal anyway? We do, feel and think |
| each and every one of them special. The UK is so | | | | whatever we feel is right at that time, but what we |
| focused on the future it’s unhealthy. Always | | | | don’t need to do is feel like we have to punish |
| wondering and planning what you will be doing in a | | | | ourselves anymore than we already feel we have |
| week’s time or tomorrow. Before you know it | | | | been punished with the loss. |
| today has long gone and we never lived one second | | | | It is only time that can heal, because we manage to |
| of it, only planned for next week. What if next week | | | | learn to forgive, never forget. I used to feel I |
| never came, what if tomorrow never arrived? We | | | | wasn’t allowed to let an hour go by without |
| don’t know what’s round the corner for us. | | | | thinking about them, or I would feel they’d been |
| Life is all about your journey each and every day; | | | | forgotten, when they never would have to start |
| it’s never about the destination. Life happens | | | | with. They never wanted me to feel this way, I |
| while we are busy making plans, planning the future | | | | chose to. They never wanted me to feel sad for |
| and before we realise half our life has gone, just on | | | | one minute or to stop living my life and the more I |
| planning the future, never living in the moment and | | | | thought about this, the more I realized it was true. |
| appreciating it. That is why people who live like this | | | | While I was sad all the time, even though they were |
| are not happy. How can you ever possibly be happy | | | | no longer here in physical body, they were in spirit |
| when you are constantly striving for something you | | | | and never wanted me to feel sad, because they to |
| think you want and need, but might never have? Is it | | | | saw me sad and was upset because they felt like |
| any wonder we feel something is missing in our | | | | this was their fault I was sad. It is a vicious circle. |
| life’s? We place the emphasis on what we think | | | | The choice had been taken away from us both, so |
| we want and need so much, that it’s completely | | | | to punish ourselves even more, is not necessary, |
| taken away from appreciating what we already have. | | | | don’t you see that? Life is far to short to live |
| What’s missing is the biggest part called living | | | | with regrets, blame, guilt and all the destructive |
| and enjoying the here and now. If you are so | | | | feelings we place on ourselves each and every day, |
| focused on reaching your destination, you take the | | | | for who knows what’s around the corner for |
| emphasis completely off the here and now, as | | | | us? Start now allowing yourself to live and let all |
| though its no relevance whatsoever, this is the | | | | those useless and destructive emotions and thoughts |
| mistake we all make. When you learn to live for now | | | | go. Be free and feel free again, the only person who |
| and not the future, it’s amazing how different | | | | is keeping you where you are in your life, and making |
| you see everything, it’s like you have been blind | | | | you feel the way you do is you. So stop being so |
| all your life and been given sight to see. Yet we still | | | | hard on yourself and learn to let go and live again, |
| take it all for granted each and every day and let it | | | | please. I did, it wasn’t easy, but it was certainly |
| slip through our hands and pass us by like we have | | | | better than the way I was living and feeling at the |
| an unlimited supply. Who would want an unlimited | | | | time. If I was to go back to that and the sad |
| supply if you were miserable, so busy living in the | | | | existence I had called life, which I chose, I really |
| future to appreciate right now? | | | | wouldn’t want to be here. |
| If someone would have said to you before you | | | | If you were to ask someone why they were Muslim |
| were given your life ‘you can have a life on | | | | or Buddhist or Catholic or whatever religion they |
| earth on one condition, you cannot live it, have fun | | | | were, they would not be able to give you an answer |
| or enjoy it each and every day, you must only | | | | regarding their faith. The reason for this is because |
| concentrate on your future and live to plan for your | | | | they have NEVER once asked themselves the same |
| future’ What would your reply have been? | | | | question! Their answer would only be because they |
| ‘I don’t think I’ll bother, that | | | | believe. Like I said belief is something which you are |
| doesn’t sound like fun’ or ‘I’ll give | | | | given, not something which you choose. So really |
| that a miss, thanks all the same’. Yet each and | | | | when you look at any faith in this universe, we are |
| every day of your waking life, this is ALL you ever | | | | one and always will be one, no matter what anyone |
| do, by choice? You are in charge of your thoughts | | | | thinks. The only thing we are actually doing is |
| and have the choice to do this or not to do this each | | | | following great leaders of the past, nothing more. |
| and every day, yet you still choose to do this? | | | | |